Advanced Dreaming: Did a Wheel Fall Off?

Is your dream slipping away?

Just to be upfront, I’m not here to convince you to pursue your dream.

I’m here to ask you a question: Did a wheel come off?

Wheel?

Yeah, if your life is a car, did a wheel fall off?

In other words, did something in life throw you for a loop?

Like did you lose a job?

Get hit with a big, unexpected bill?

End a relationship?

It’s an important question to ask, especially in regards to your dream because losing a wheel can stop a dream dead in its tracks.

The Double Whammy

Do you know what makes losing a wheel even worse?

Seeing someone who never loses a wheel.

But here’s the thing, everyone loses a wheel at some time.

The person who look like she has it all together all the time just doesn’t know when a wheel has come off.

My wife, Lisa, and I have a friend, Felicia.

Felicia’s an executive and is used to making big decisions that impact lots of people

Her husband, Jose, only 62-years-old, was rapidly declining with a rare form of dementia. And when Jose started to become a threat to his paid companions and himself, Felicia decided to institutionalize him.

She also sold her house and started to build a smaller one so that she could handle long-term care if Jose needed it.

Basically, Felicia had a checklist and she methodically ticked off the next item to be done to ensure that she did everything she could to take care of her husband.

When Lisa and I went to visit Jose on New Year’s Eve in the nursing home, he was slumped over in his wheelchair. He had moments of lucidness but the majority of the time it just seemed like he was existing.

In the TV room next to Jose sat four women. It was unclear if they were actually watching TV or just existing, too.

Yep, this is where the old people (and now Jose) go to die.

Lisa and I had this overwhelming urge to throw Jose over our shoulders and run out of the nursing home with him.

Bulletproof Felicia

Felicia showed up a little later. She had brought non-alcoholic champagne to have an early celebration of the New Year.

As we were drinking the bubbly and gathered around Jose bent over in his wheelchair, Felicia went on in detail about Jose’s precipitous drop in health.

Then she stroked his back as she calmly explained how this was the best place for him in his condition.

So, contrast Lisa and me wanting to break Jose out of the nursing home and Felicia, his wife, completely together, calm as a cucumber.

Well, there’s more to the story.

When Felicia toasted The New Year with us she didn’t have non-alcoholic champagne in her travel mug.

She had cranberry juice and vodka.

It’s her drug of choice that she uses day in and day out to numb the pain so that she can pretend a wheel hasn’t come off.

Hot Mess

When I was 28 all my wheels came off, like “bouncing down the road” off.

I wrote dark and depressing prose.

I did self-destructive things.

And Lisa, my girlfriend at the time, had a suicide watch on me.

(I guess this would be a bad time for me to pitch my coaching service, huh? Lol.)

It was a horrible period in my life, but I learned something valuable about when a wheel or two or three or four fall off.

You can put them back on.

And when you do, anything is possible again

This realization has become my recipe for not giving up on my dreams.

The recipe goes as follows: This time in my life sucks and at the moment I see no possible way of fulfilling my dream BUT this is temporary situation because I’m dealing with stuff that’s clouding my vision and once I take care of business, I’ll be back on track to pursing my dream.

Or the quick recipe: It’s the wheel that’s the problem, not the dream.

So, as you may have guessed by now, I lied.

I AM trying to persuade you to stay on course with your dreams.

Which brings me to this question: What’s stopping you from pursuing your dream right now?

Is it actually a wheel that’s off?

All your time is spent taking care of your kids or your parents.

You injured your neck.

You had to remortgage your house.

The person you had thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with is no longer there.

Things hurt more because you’re older.

You got in a relationship you don’t want to be in.

Remember a wheel off doesn’t mean forever.

And it certainly doesn’t mean The End.

Start to put that wheel back on.

And whoomp there that dream is.

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